About Anxiety & Fear around Relationships & Dating
Anxiety is a psychological condition that affects nearly 1.4 million women across Australia every year — so if you are living with anxiety, you are far from alone. For many women, anxiety doesn’t just make dating & being in a relationship hard, it’s often the reason they find themselves single or uncomfortable. Fear of rejection, avoiding emotional risk, or struggling to trust can quietly shape your relationship history. The good news? These patterns can change.
Anxiety looks different for everyone. Some women experience constant worry or looping thoughts, others avoid situations that feel overwhelming. Many feel restless or unsettled even when they know there’s no immediate danger. While anxiety is often about a perceived threat, the impact on daily life and relationships is very real.
Many of our clients have turned to NeurOptimal Neurofeedback to help manage intrusive thoughts and strong emotions. Past clients have shared that after consistent use, they felt calmer, experienced fewer anxiety spikes, and made clearer choices — especially in relationships.
Being able to train at home has been invaluable. Many women appreciate the freedom to use the system when anxiety shows up — whether late at night or after a difficult moment. You don’t have to do this alone. We are here to support you every step of the way.
About our From Anxiety to Connection Package
This package provides full access to the Neurofeedback System and accessories, along with practical support to guide you towards easing anxiety and improving confidence in relationships.
Anxiety around relationships can improve over time by helping the brain regulate itself and build emotional resilience. Neurofeedback offers a structured way for the brain to observe its own patterns, helping many people step out of reactive cycles and make calmer, clearer choices.
Past clients have reported less mental chatter, fewer anxiety spikes, and a greater sense of ease both in daily life and while navigating relationships. Everyone’s experience is different, but having practical tools and guidance available at home has helped many women find relief, peace and love!
This pack combines Neurofeedback with simple, supportive resources to help you learn, reflect, and work through your relationship anxiety at your own pace. Alongside the manual, you’ll also have access to additional materials and the option of short 15 Minute weekly phone call if you’d like someone to walk alongside you.
We have designed this pack to be practical and gentle — offering enough structure to help without overwhelming you. We want you to have what you need to begin changing these patterns step by step.
Our Dream Outcome for you!
Our hope for you is simple but powerful — that you begin to experience relationships, especially romantic ones, with more calm, confidence, and ease. Over time, many women who have worked on their anxiety find that their emotions begin to feel more stable, allowing them to navigate ups and downs without feeling overwhelmed or shut down.
We want you to feel safe enough to be fully yourself with someone else. To share who you are, what you need, and what you want, without fear or self-editing. The goal isn’t to “fix” you — it’s to help you feel like you can relax into your own skin and connect from that place. The right person will meet you there, no games needed.
We also hope that, as you work through this process, you notice positive changes not just in dating, but across all the relationships in your life. Friendships, family connections, even how you relate to yourself, may begin to shift as you grow more comfortable expressing your thoughts, needs, and emotions.
Most importantly, we want you to have the communication skills, emotional steadiness, and self-awareness to build something meaningful — without losing yourself along the way. You deserve that, and we’d love to help you move towards it.
This package includes:
Full Neurofeedback Kit – Includes System and all accessories (as per home page)
Full Insurance and Postage coverage
A simple Relationship Anxiety improvement strategy guide
A loan of the book 10 Things Every Woman Should Know About Men
A set of positive affirmation cards to use and keep
Recommendation for a tracking app to support your progress
33-Minute Romance & Intimacy Priming™ tool specifically developed for relationship anxiety
Daily text messages to keep your session on track (if desired)
One 15 Minute Weekly phone call to support you (if desired)
10 hand-picked, relationship-focused mainstream movies to watch during your sessions
A printed tracking calendar with motivating stickers for every small win along the way
Frequently Asked Questions – Anxiety Specific
What if I’m the problem and no pack can help me?
You’re not alone — many women (me included) have realised anxiety has quietly shaped their relationship patterns. You are not broken. Most of us were simply never taught the practical steps for building healthy relationships without fear or overwhelm.
This package was created because women like you have used it to find relief. With neurofeedback to help regulate emotions, and simple, practical tools to gently shift old patterns, many have found themselves feeling calmer, clearer, and more able to connect.
You don’t have to do it perfectly — you just have to begin, and we’re here to help.
I’ve already tried so many things, why would this be any different?
We hear this more often than you might think. Many women come to this point feeling like nothing works and that maybe it’s hopeless — it’s not. Neurofeedback can create new processing space in your mind, helping you see things differently and with more clarity. This isn’t starting from scratch; it helps you build on everything you’ve already tried, often making it more useful and effective. Many women would find that because they can think clearer, what once felt impossible became manageable, giving them the confidence they didn’t think they could have.
I don’t deserve love anyway. Maybe I should just accept that I’ll be alone.
Totally! I have been there too. Relationships can feel like an insurmountable task with no end in sight — and you start to wonder if you could just survive alone instead. The truth is, the whole idea of not deserving love is just a trick your anxious mind plays. Of course you do. You’re human. Honestly, we all have girlfriends who have genuinely given up — but you wouldn’t be reading this if you had too. And deep down, you know being alone sucks (especially on the weekends!). We are here to walk with you through this, and we are confident that you will get what you desire.
Isn’t this too late for me? I should have figured this out years ago.
Yep, been there too — nearly the story of my life! It often feels like everyone else got handed the rulebook except you. The truth is, many women feel the same but just don’t talk about it. You’re not behind — you’re just ready now. This pack introduces you to the high-leverage tool of Neurofeedback — like the big ladder in snakes and ladders that takes you all the way to the top with less effort. Using this, you might actually end up ahead — so you may never feel behind again.
I’m scared to actually face my past — what if it’s too painful?
Oh, I get it — this one hits home for me too. Facing the past can feel huge and overwhelming, but it’s also so human. You don’t have to do it alone — we’re here if you’d like support. The truth is, feelings don’t disappear when we avoid them, they just tend to show up in other ways. Neurofeedback gently helps regulate emotions, making it feel less overwhelming and more manageable. The only way out is through — but you don’t have to push through alone, and you don’t have to do it all at once
What if it works for others but not for me?
That is a real concern — and an honest one. It can feel like a risk of time, money, and hope. Many women have felt the same way at first. NeurOptimal has been around for over 25 years and is used in over 75 countries, and we continue to hear how helpful it has been for anxiety, fear, and emotional regulation. While every experience is unique, this system has consistently helped women feel calmer and more steady — and we’ll be here to support you through the process. And if you really feel like it’s not helping, we offer a pro-rata refund for any unused time. We don’t want to lock anyone into anything.
If I admit I need this, am I just admitting I’m broken?
It can be really confronting to realise you might need some additional help — I get it. The truth is, you are not broken. You just have a goal and are smart enough to get some extra training. Think of it like an Olympian hiring a coach, or Taylor Swift working with a vocal trainer — it’s just support, not a sign of weakness. The beauty of this package is you can do it privately, in your own home, with no one needing to know unless you want them to. It simply helps with the heavy lifting so you can take practical steps towards the life you want at last.
I don’t even know where to start — it feels overwhelming.
Yep, it can definitely feel like that. When anxiety and fear are running the show, even taking the first step can feel huge. You don’t have to have it all figured out — you just have to start. The simplest way is to reach out. Fill out the online form or give me a call directly on 0474 319 467. I want you to feel completely comfortable, so we’ll go at your pace and take it one small, manageable step at a time together.
I’ve learned to survive with anxiety… maybe I don’t need to change.
Honestly, after a lifetime of anxiety, it can feel like this is just who you are — like there isn’t another way to function. Many women feel the same, and survival mode quietly becomes normal. Neurofeedback can gently open up space in your mind to notice that maybe there is another way — a way that feels calmer, softer, and more manageable. This isn’t about changing who you are; it’s about giving yourself the chance to experience things differently, if you’d like to.
What if I don’t have time to use the package properly?
We really believe in good timing. If right now is genuinely too busy or overwhelming, it’s okay to wait until you feel ready — there’s no pressure. That said, if it’s more about fear or hesitation than actual time, we encourage you to gently consider starting anyway. Many women have told us that once they took the first step, they realised they did have pockets of time — and the benefits were worth it. The more you use the system, the more you’ll likely get out of it, but you don’t have to do it perfectly.
What if I buy it and it just sits on the shelf unused?
What if I don’t stick with it like I haven’t with other things?
What if I don’t like reading or doing exercises — will I still benefit?
Is this just going to be fluffy or too soft and not real enough for me?
Is this just another gimmick that won’t really help?
What if I end up feeling worse when I realise how much time I’ve wasted?
If I get my hopes up and still don’t meet anyone, I don’t think I could handle the disappointment.
I’m worried that I will just keep attracting the same type of people, no matter what I do.
“I rented a system after hearing about Neurofeedback from a friend down in Sydney. I rented a machine for 2 sets of 4 weeks. For the first time in my life, I had a clear mind! I found myself walking round the house singing, instead of weighed down by the to-do list in my head. I thought to myself “is this what other people feel like all the time?”. The differences were subtle, but overall, profound. I can leave the house without a lot of stress beforehand; I can navigate conversations that previously I would have wanted to check out of, and I found myself more stable and level-headed in my work. Things that would have stressed me previously don’t. I realized life had been way harder for me than it needed to be, and it didn’t have to be like that forever. I’m really thankful to Gema and NeurOptimal for making this kind of training available to everyone.”